No is a powerful word and one that always seems to harbor negative connotations. But what if I told you that adding the word “no” to your everyday vocabulary could be one of the most positive things in your life? Seems like an oxymoron, doesn’t it?
The word “no” is known to us as a bad word at the very beginning of our lives. Our parents tell us “no” to things that we want to do, so we believe it to be the worst word in the world. Can I have this? No. Can I do that? No. But I really want to! No.
At a very young age, we figure out that no is not a good word to hear, especially in the exclamative way. But as we get older, we seem to realize the meaning for all those no’s that our parents told us. It was for our safety and to help us be better. However, for some reason, even as we grow up into adulthood, telling someone “no” seems to still be a terrible thing to do. We feel bad that we want to tell our friends “no” and that we don’t really want to hang out tonight. We feel bad when our coworkers or family ask us to help them out and do something for them and we really want to say no in all honesty, but we don’t because we don’t want to be seen as a “bad person.”
I’m here to tell you, that for yourself and your own wellbeing, it is okay to say no to people and to other aspects of your life.
Saying no is important, especially when it comes to your wellbeing. If after a long day at work, you don’t want to go out with coworkers to get a couple drinks, say no. It’s way more important for you to be able to recharge your social batteries then to drain them even more on an outing that you didn’t really want to go to in the first place.
Saying no is also important when it comes to yourself and saving money. Say no when that desire to impulse buy comes up. Say no when you’re thinking about giving up on your goal because it’s getting too hard.
This all being said, don’t think that it’s now totally acceptable to shirk all of your responsibilities and opportunities simply because you were told that saying no can be a good thing. Saying yes can also be beneficial sometimes, but it is understanding your true limits as a person and knowing when it is the right time for you in your life to say “yes” and when to say “no.” This balance may take a long time to develop and grow to the point that you want it, but knowing the right balance is important to living a healthier and more abundant lifestyle.